Sooner or later life you're going to hit a bump in the road. Choosing how to respond to such a crisis can make a massive difference to your happiness and well-being.
Adversity is like a headwind, a set of circumstances which have come between you and your immediate sense of well-being.
One of the keys which can help you deal better with adversity is to recognise that adversity is normally a temporary state of affairs. What's difficult now may not be in a week, or a month or a year.
You can test this hypothesis yourself simply by reflecting back to the tough times you've had in the past, and see how far away they now seem.
As you face into adversity, it pays to remember what state of mind you actually want to have. The state of mind you want to achieve is one which:
- You are satisfied with how your life is going.
- You enjoy more pleasure than pain.
- You experience a positive emotional condition.
If you're curious about your current level of happiness, why not complete the questionnaire below?
It is based on the work of Christopher Peterson from the University of Michigan, author of A Primer in Positive Psychology. You’ll get an immediate result so you can identify your current state of mind.
If the questionnaire fails to load you can access it here.
Whatever your current state of mind, here are seven resources that can help you deal better with adversity.
1. Useful Articles
2. For When You've Lost Your Job
If you've been unlucky enough to lose your job, I've written a guide based on many years of experience supporting people through situations such as these. I'd also like to acknowledge the thoughtful contributions of readers in this area too.
Choosing the right role, in the right organisation can have a huge impact on your well-being. Continually working in a toxic environment is bad news all around. You can choose to take a different path.
If you're considering a change — the advice in the guide might still help you.
3. Organisational and Cultural Fit
Choosing the right kind of organisation to join can have a dramatic impact on your future happiness at work.
If you're struggling with your current role, it could be because you are not suited to working in the sort of organisation you're currently working in. Take the quiz below to see which end of the cultural spectrum might suit you best.
If the quiz doesn't load you can take it here.
4. More Useful Articles To Help You Deal Better With Adversity
- How To Revive Your Mojo If You Lose Your Job
- How To Write A Powerful Personal Leadership Manifesto
- How To Avoid The Dangers Of Success
5. Emotional First Aid
Guy Winch's book Emotional First Aid (affiliate link) suggests that while we almost always have a first-aid kit in the bathroom for all of our physical cuts and scrapes, we are usually particularly poorly equipped when it comes to our emotional health.
I would recommend you go and buy his book. It's full of practical advice.
6. Adversity Quotations
It's all too easy to let your head drop when life deals you an unwanted hand. Whenever you're facing an unwelcome challenge it can be useful to remember that such events happen to us all.
Here are a few quotations about adversity that you might find restore your hope and rekindle your fire.
M. Kathleen Casey
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional".
William Shakespreare, Othello
"The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief".
"The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work"".
Ralph Waldo Emerson
" We acquire the strength we have overcome."
7. Adversity Books
Here's a list of some of the best books I've read on the theme of coping with adversity.
There's a heap more that I've read which are not currently on this shelf. I'd be interested in any suggestions you have which can be added to this list.